Dear ___________:

The purpose of this letter is to remind you of the visitation provisions in our divorce decree.  According to the divorce decree, visitation was granted as follows: __________
___________________________________________.   To date, you have not complied with these child visitation provisions.

The obligations regarding child visitation are independent of the obligation to provide child support

It is important support the court’s efforts to separate the children and visitation issues, from the other issues we may have with our former marriage.

If I have not heard from you by __________ (Date) to commit to child visitation rights as ordered by the court, I will be compelled to go into court and have you held in contempt.
Spending more time and money on this will not be to anyone’s benefit.  However, they are my children as well as yours, so I will take this step if forced to by your non-compliance.

I hope this letter will help soften your judgment and permit court ordered child visitations to happen as required by law.

Best regards,

___________
Non-Custodial parent

cc Attachment Court Authority for the above statements

Child Visitation Rights, Violation Notice
Review List

This review list is provided to inform you about this document in question and assist you in its preparation.  This is a Sales letter.  You could just go into court and get the other party held in contempt, period.  The custodial parent knows they are in violation of the court order but must have a sense they are either “above” the court or have a “higher crusading” cause to justify their illegal behavior.

If you wish to write them, then work to soften their judgment rather than further attack them and drive them into a corner.  If you believe a letter will not work, just go to court.  They hear these matters every day and act in favor of the non-custodial parent in most cases with regards to visitation rights.

If you are the non-custodial parent and are having problems making payments, and the custodial parent is using the children as a weapon, you should consider going promptly to court to soften their judgment about you so that when the subject of payments comes up at a later date you have this provocation on your side.  All of this is sad, ugly, and painful.  But, we can only provide the strategic and tactical advice, and wish you the best of luck.

No matter which side you are on, remember that no one wins one of these things—and the children always lose with this form of contention.

Dear ___________:

The purpose of this letter is to remind you of the child support provisions in our divorce decree.  According to the divorce decree, child support payments must be made by the __ day of each month.  To date, you have not complied with these child support provisions.

The obligations regarding child support are independent of the visitation rights and you have retained all such rights.

If I have not heard from you by __________ (Date) to commit to prompt child support payments, as ordered by the court, I will be compelled to go into court and have you held in contempt.   Spending more time and money on this will not be to anyone’s benefit.  .

I hope this letter will help soften your judgment and permit court ordered support payments to happen as required by law.

Best regards,

___________
Non-Custodial parent

cc Attachment Court Authority for the above statements

Child Support Payments, Violation Notice
Review List

This review list is provided to inform you about this document in question and assist you in its preparation.  This is a Sales letter.  You could just go into court and get the other party held in contempt, period.  The non-custodial parent knows they are in violation of the court order but are not making payments for a variety of reasons.

If you wish to write them, then work to soften their judgment rather than further attack them and drive them into a corner.  If you believe a letter will not work, just go to court.  They hear these matters every day and act in favor of the custodial parent in most cases with regards to payments.  In most instances the court will order wage attachments and the like to enforce your rights to child support.

If the non-custodial parent is having legitimate problems making payments due to unemployment or other matters, you can elect to accept partial payments which will not effect the total payments due under the agreement unless you waive them.  If the non-custodial parent has legitimate payment problems, the court will still generally side with you in any pressure you wish to bring upon the other party.  However, if your children are visiting that non-custodial parent, they will, at best, not appreciate that pressure being brought against the other parent—and that can have a lasting impact on your relationship with them.

These matters are never easy to decide.  Keep in mind that no one ever wins one of these battles so try to minimize the negative fall out to you and your children.